©2019 by Gemma Ray

Time to stop hiding away

July 3, 2019

I've just realised it's been a whole year and 3 months since I wrote any form of blog on this website.


I'm not surprised. I've been hiding away for a while now. I knew I should keep up with it - my one little space with my name on to put my expertise and wisdom out there. I 'should' also practice what I preach to my clients when it comes to keeping up with content


I had a nervous breakdown in the winter of 2016. Not something I'd wish on my worst enemy but actually 2.5 years after this, I can now confidently tell you this was the best thing that has ever happened to me. 


I've been blessed in my self-driven healing process to receive the expertise and support from a number of coaches and professionals. I'm working with an awesome lady at the moment who blows my mind with her insight, expertise and downright hilarity. Laura Powner is her name and she is remarkable. 


Yesterday Laura set us a task to write a letter to ourselves from our future self. Yes, bit weird I know but it was very powerful.


There's a great exercise you can do as part of a morning routine called Morning Pages. It's where you set a timer for 5 minutes and just put pen to paper with no expectation of conscious thought on what you're going to write. Often you can step back from your writing and really see what is going on deep down.


I treated this letter in the same way I treat the morning pages exercise. I have no idea what future me will be like, so I wanted to try and not steer the writing with any pre-conceived notions of how life will turn out.I wrote it ten years into the future and was shocked what came back.


Step into the spotlight.

Stop playing small.


Was the overarching message my future self said via my present self.


If you know me personally you might have noticed a little change. The volume has gone down a couple of notches and the confidence definitely diluted. Physically it's been a big change. I've hidden behind weight gain. All 4 stone of it to be precise. The thing is, nobody gives a shit whether I'm a size 10 or a size 16. I'm still me and I still do a freakin amazing job whatever I sent my mind to (apart from painting and decorating - I'm terrible at that!).


So that's why I'm here really. I came to update my website as it's been almost three years since I refreshed it and a lot has changed in that time. I am lucky I've spread such a wide range of my skills across many projects and sectors. Right now at this point in my life I'm trying to figure out what I want to focus on while maintaining a sense of balance with work and life - particularly my life as a mum.


Right now I'm ready to step into the spotlight. It's 3 years later than I anticipated but I'll get there.




If you're here because I've recently contacted you about speaking, presenting or hosting opportunities I am grateful you stopped by. I've asked for some support from those who I have worked with at events as a presenter/organiser and you can see what they had to say here:


May I also take this opportunity to tell you I wrote a book! And it rocketed to the top of loads of categories on Amazon. If you haven't yet got your copy you can purchase the Kindle, paperback and Audible version here: mybook.to/selfdiscipline 





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